Clearly, then, moral virtue belongs to all of them; but the temperance of a man and of a woman, or the courage and justice of a man and of a woman, are not, as Socrates maintained, the same; the courage of a man is shown in commanding, of a woman in obeying. And this holds of all other virtues, as will be more clearly seen if we look at them in detail, for those who say generally that virtue consists in a good disposition of the soul, or in doing rightly, or the like, only deceive themselves. Far better than such definitions is their mode of speaking, who, like Gorgias, enumerate the virtues. All classes must be deemed to have their special attributes; as the poet says of women, "Silence is a woman's glory, " but this is not equally the glory of man.
They do not give to the courage of woman the same form or the same direction as to that of man, but they never doubt her courage; and if they hold that man and his partner ought not always to exercise their intellect and understanding in the same manner, they at least believe the understanding of the one to be as sound as that of the other, and her intellect to be as clear.
--Tocqueville, How the Americans Understand the Equality of the Sexes, Democracy in America
Since writing that post, I have given birth. After that, I'm pretty certain that at least some acts of women are as risky and courageous as men going to war.
By the way, it is clear to me that (if you look at what he's quoting) Aristotle does not think that silence is a woman's glory. It also seems to me highly unlikely that either Aristotle or Tocqueville could really think that men run the household.
In conclusion, Is the courage of men and women different innately or is it different where their roles are different?