Saturday, November 16, 2024

The Weekend


On Friday night, I helped my friend and her husband take a load of stuff over to their new place. It was invigorating to help, even just for a couple of hours. 

Saturday morning started with a Q basketball game--intense to watch, and I yell the whole time. Focusing on improvements! He got to play on his best friend's team because they needed an extra player, which was a treat. 

Friday, November 15, 2024

The Week

Lunch with Francisco, an art exhibit that included Blaze's school work, a college basketball game. (I've been following them remotely for a year and boy, in person is so much better.)

During the game, Q and Blaze played basketball (adorable) and tag. At half time I joined them for some fun. 



 

Thursday, November 14, 2024

Quote

"Thinking is secreted in the interstices of habits." --John Dewey, The Public and Its Problems

The Week

I think that the EMDR is helping with my overwhelm and rage. I think it's getting less often, weaker, and shorter. I'm so very grateful and hopeful. 

Yesterday I continued my work as furniture--drafting a memo and then revising it with feedback from six colleagues, all with different interests, and then discussing it with the subject of the memo. I'm proud of my work on this and enjoyed it more than any other aspect of being the furniture thus far. 

And all day I felt like I was hung over from too much work and too little sleep. But I made it. 

The end of the semester is racing near--not sure how to do everything left to do. 


It wasn't raining during my lovely walk to work, but had rained--gray, wet, with flowers still hanging on. 

Tons to look forward to today.


Oh, Trump's insistence on recess appointments is just perfect, obviously not as a political action, but as an illustration for my class, which has thought a lot about the separation of powers and has spent time with Montesquieu and the Federalist Papers. My students said they wanted more contemporary application and then Trump's started tweeting. 

Wednesday, November 13, 2024

The Week

The boys entertained themselves last night with some impromptu crafts, after which we had spaghetti with wine. Q pointed out that we had all the components of a fancy dinner--wine, flowers, and a chandelier, so it occurred to us that we needed to light the candles, too.

Right now I'm reading to the boys two books: The Great Gilly Hopkins and Carry On, Mr. Bowditch. I understand now why I've never heard of Gilly Hopkins--that book has tons of cursing! And racism is an explicit theme, which is tricky to take up with kids. I mean, I explain racism carefully to my children, but it's hard to read a book in which one character is racist for a while before presumably she changes at the end. Anyway, we read about a character called Melvin in Mr. Bowditch last night. Blaze asked, "Is it the famous Melvin?" I wracked my brain for what he could mean. Then I realized, asking in return, "Do you mean Elvis?" He did. 

Finally, in my furniture duties I pulled what is to mid-life me an all-nighter on a memo that I need to submit today after half a dozen other people give me feedback on it--I worked from the kids' bedtime till 11:10. Still, the work was very invigorating. I should have been a diplomat. (Also I get snarky when writing late at night. Sigh.)



 

Tuesday, November 12, 2024

Quote

 See, it is unholy to be as bad at housekeeping as I am: 

Similarly, older women should be reverent in their behavior,
not slanderers, not addicted to drink,
teaching what is good, so that they may train younger women
to love their husbands and children,
to be self-controlled, chaste, good homemakers,
under the control of their husbands,
so that the word of God may not be discredited.

The Week


Yesterday I got to do some of the really fun work of being furniture--advocating for good people. But I'm not sure if it will make a difference. 

I brought beer and cookies to our department meeting. That did, in fact, make a difference.

Q had basketball and Blaze had piano. I sat in the waiting room during his lesson--it was good to see the way that the teacher gently pushes him to do better, even when he doesn't think he can do it. (As the person who sits beside him at home when he's practicing, I see that he performs much better for her than for me.) And seeing their repartee was just too fun--he confidently walked in and showed her his boo-boos from school that day, explaining in some detail the soccer collision that led to his scrapes. When she was trying to explain to him what an octave is, she asked him, "Why do we call it an octopus?" He replied confidently, "Because it is an octopus." That kid. 

At home, he's working on a dragon-dinosaur city. We love his creativity.  

Sunday, November 10, 2024

Weekending




Saturday morning was busy--we cheered Q on in his very first basketball game--extremely anxiety-inducing. At one point I yelled, "offense," which helped him realize he didn't need to be defending against his man. We headed to the library for armfuls of books. Then to Pizza Hut to redeem Blaze's book-it reward. Then to the grocery store to pick up snacks for my department meeting. Then home to watch my basketball team lose--but only by a little and to the best team of last year, so I guess I'll take it. (Friday night they were down by 18 so I stopped paying attention and then two minutes later they were within two and I regretted looking at my phone.) Below: the setting of the high school where Q's game was held. 



 Sunday: We took a walk at a new nature park in our town--beautiful sunny afternoon. Mass in the evening. 




Friday, November 8, 2024

The Week

The other day I made pumpkin bread. I need all the housekeeping points because this is a part of life in which I constantly feel inadequate. Last night I invented loaded mashed potatoes--we ate them with roasted broccoli, caramelized onions and garlic, and three kinds of cheese. 


Then we watched King Kong. The boys were fascinated by the clunky monster. 


This week I have had zero meetings for the first time all year (obviously student meetings, but that's it)--and nothing that I had to attend at lunch. It has been a relatively peaceful week. 

Thursday, November 7, 2024

The Week


Blaze lost his first tooth! A very exciting event. And had his first visit from (our family's very cheap) tooth fairy. 

Also--his new one came in behind the old one, which was something I didn't know could happen. According to the internet this often resolves itself. 



 

Wednesday, November 6, 2024

Celebration!

I finished (for now) editing a monster of an 18k word chapter that took me three work days more than my allotted three weeks. 

The Week

A lovely foggy morning. I really enjoyed my walk. 

My phone appears to have changed the size of my photos without asking!




Yesterday: I took the kids to visit a student exit poll after school. They were pretty interested, and I told the students about Blaze's interpretation of exit polls. 

We watched Creature from the Black Lagoon (1954) in the evening. One kid was too scared, the other loves scary movies.  

I had EMDR during the day. I guess I had a very small panic attack in the middle--suddenly after freezing in my office all day, before and after, my body temperature went way up. It's fascinating to learn more about the ways that the mind and body are connected. Francisco and I both think that my bad times are getting a little weaker and I'm able to move out of them a little faster. For that I am very deeply grateful. 



To be honest, I was highly surprised about the election results--that the results were so clear relatively quickly. It was much less close than I anticipated. 



Tuesday, November 5, 2024

The Week

After we voted, Q suggested that he give an exit poll to the other people leaving the voting. I thought this was really funny and shared it with my colleague who teaches polling. Her students are exit polling today and she invited Q to come and talk to them. Blaze (6) overheard me telling this to Q and said, "Ohhhh! I like exit polls!" "What," I asked him, "is an exit poll?" He answered, "A pole you slide down to exit!" Oh my gosh he kills me. 

This morning on the way to school, Blaze mentioned that "that tree is shaved" (pruned or trimmed?). 

And when I told him that he's really good at reading and when he wants to know what words say, he should try reading them before asking us. He replied, "The point is: I can read, but I don't like to read." This kid. 

Last night I played tennis--I was the youngest so I was assigned to be teammates with the oldest--I assume she is in her 80s so she doesn't run. That meant that I was responsible for the whole back court and for all balls that she couldn't hit with one step, whether on her left or her right. So I ran and ran. The achievement of the evening--two *one-handed* backhands! Also, we lost the first set and won the second (only by one because we were all tired and agreed to that arrangement). I walked home in the drizzle. 

 

Sunday, November 3, 2024

The Weekend


We've been resting hard core around here. Lots of Only Murders in the Building, which is my favorite genre, comedy-detective shows. And has the greatest show name of all time. 

Religious ed for Blaze, a day of total rest and recovery for Q (his second fever without sharing it with us in two months, which concerns me, especially since we all eat after each other and are guaranteed to share basically all sicknesses). 

Evening mass--Blaze was thrilled that there was pizza afterward. 

Folding piles and piles of laundry. 

Oh--I spent half the night in Blaze's bed and at one point heard him giggling in his sleep. Totally delightful and totally Blaze. I've never met anyone who loves to giggle as much as he does. 

Saturday, November 2, 2024

The Week and into the Weekend


I stumbled through Friday, just thinking about when I could get home, into my sweatpants and bed and never leave. Then I remembered--mass. We remarkably all made it, tired though we were. 

I love the litany of the saints--and "For all the saints," especially the line, "We feebly struggle; they in glory shine." Relatable, to use my least favorite word. 




Grandma left us a gorgeous centerpiece. Eating at out table now feels like a wedding.

 

Last night I slept and slept and slept. (I woke up for a moment to help the kids in the morning and then continued to sleep.)

In the afternoon we voted--preceded by some political family discussion. In a way, it's hard for me to vote for a woman who puts abortion access as a front-point of her campaign. On the other hand, I believe that a support for life means a support for all lives and for life at all its stages. And that includes the lives and safety of undocumented people and of people who are at risk in their countries of origin. And of mothers--I know a pro-life mother personally who was denied the care she needed after a miscarriage due to these terribly written and implemented anti-abortion laws. 

Plus, I think that she won't attack the Constitution in the way that he has done and has promised to continue to do. 

Finally, my conservatism says that the past can carry wisdom--that social practices and norms and habits and traditions can carry wisdom. We have to probe and question them, but starting with some deference. He prides himself in overthrowing norms in ways that are vulgar. 

There is my political manifesto.


So we voted. Then we stopped for chocolates and to browse at an antique shop. Q couldn't finish his chocolate, so I thought he was getting sick. We walked to the football game, which was SO GOOD. Then home--indeed, Q is in bed with a fever. 



Right now I'm listening to Blaze bang happily on the piano, and it's like my childhood dream fulfilled. And I'm thankful for EMDR and for a body that has barely gone into emergency mode today (maybe for five minutes while we were in the voting line around too many people). 

Friday, November 1, 2024

Halloween

There's a big celebration in our town--everyone comes and a whole street is closed. It is half overwhelming chaos and organizing kids into lines to trick or treat at each house and half such happy running into a thousand friends and acquaintances--our own and the kids'. It's trying to all stay together and also enjoy all the costumes. So we survived that. Then the kids handed out candy at our house, which they loved. Then, over-sugared and starving from not having dinner and tired, we gently compelled them to eat a little bit of something that wasn't chocolate. 

Q was Machiavelli, which was the absolute best in my book. And Blaze was Kylo Ren. Grandma wore a cape. 

The street was really decorated and a church put on a Noah and the Ark tableau in a park with camels! And strange cattle. This must be the first time that there were a pair of camels in our town?! A scary figure that we thought was a statue surprised Q and we all had a laugh. Blaze declared the person dressed as Sasquatch as "obviously the best" costume. Blaze attacked smoke bubbles with his light saber. 








Thursday, October 31, 2024

The Week

Oh my goodness--Q picked out another Halloween outfit for school today--with no help he replicated Machiavelli and I love it so much. 

Blaze has his first loose tooth and is anxious about eating--I told him to chew on the side, so he does, also tilting his head far to the right as if trying to shake water out of his ear. 

I had a work dinner last night with donors and the head of the school. Nicely, he made me tell everyone about a new class I'm teaching in the spring and thanked me afterwards for my service. There was no alcohol! I consider this a travesty. Cambridge wouldn't stand for that!

There may be more but I can't remember it. 

Feeling feelings is weird and annoying. I mean one thing is that I have to get used to it again--and I'm way scared of it, like maybe if I feel again I'll feel so much that I will be overwhelmed by feelings. And if I share my feelings, maybe that will stress out the people I love. But also the feelings feel so weird--I've been walking around for 10 days just feeling slightly like I want to cry. What is that trying to tell me? My therapist says to be curious about it. Is it that maybe I'm working too hard? 

Wednesday, October 30, 2024

The Week

Goodness we are all going in different directions this week--last night Francisco took his mom to a concert in another city, Q's best friend's mom (who is not only parenting and working, but also a student!) kindly drove him to basketball, and Blaze and I went to my favorite thing--we were invited to dinner at a fraternity. Blaze played with the other kids there, and I visited with students. I'm so grateful to get to know them better--and to receive their hospitality. Oh and we got to enjoy the unseasonable weather by eating and visiting outside. 

While Blaze and I were walking home (1 car life), we ran into another student out for a walk. He walked us home, and we got to talk a lot more than we do in class--he told me about his MS diagnosis, which came up because he is currently delayed in accessing a medicine he needs. I was so impressed by my student--and learned from him just during a 20-minute walk. I'm grateful for small town, small school life. 



I also did EMDR yesterday--grateful for that, too. And for beginning to feel feelings (beyond rage) again (even though it's scary as all get out). 

Tuesday, October 29, 2024

The Week


I took Q to a new basketball rec league. His best friend is playing too, so he's very excited. I was nervous for him; he had fun.