Friday, September 23, 2016

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That was the first and last time I'll ever cut my son's hair. Poor boy. And no pictures until further notice.

Thursday, September 15, 2016

Again, On Nametags

Am I a piece of fruit that I need a name sticker? Am I a young child alone on a train that I need my name and destination pinned to my outfit?

No! I have a voice, and if you ask me, I'll declare my name with that.

Thursday, September 8, 2016

Settling In

We've had a bit of a bumpy landing into the midwest. Nothing has really managed to go smoothly: Despite good yelp reviews, the movers we hired managed to pack things completely wrong, which resulted in four smashed bookshelves, a smashed table, and the only thing we have that's worth anything--our recently reupholstered couch--being broken. (It turns out that the second most valuable thing we own is my retainer, which evidently costs $900 to replace and I am so happy that we finally found it! Oh, the things that we've misplaced during the move, and are waiting to resurface.)

And after that it was one thing after another, big and small--realizing the hot and cold on the washer at our new apartment were switched; realizing that there was a leak in the pipes; finding hundreds of maggots in the trash can the day after we put the trash out; finding that our apartment faces a major highway; being disappointed in the new daycare; being thwarted in our attempt to get a new driver's license by an extra space after the prefix of the name on Francisco's passport; having our parked car hit by a person driving down the road; negotiating extensively with the insurance company to have it taken care of.

I'm sure the list will continue and there are things on it I don't want to mention here. Let's just say, I'm tired, my house still isn't unpacked, and I'm sick of social events, as ridiculously nice as everyone around here is.

The nice things that we've encountered so far: I really, really like my job. And I like being at a small school a lot.

There's a great farmer's market two blocks from our house. And this isn't bs fru-fru stuff. This is real farmers selling eggs and fruits and vegetables and free range meat. And it's affordable.

The library in the town is incredible, with an indoor play place for kids. The town is incredibly walkable--it's two blocks for me to get to school, and another block and a half to get to daycare. And every time we go out, we run into someone (or lots of someone's) from school. Even on our after dinner walk tonight, we visited with one of my colleagues. (Did I mention that everyone is friendly?)

Also Mama Leopard and Ilana came out with us to help us get settled and watch the kid. And what a wonderful help they were--they helped smooth Little Leopard's transition and unpacked our kitchen and bathroom, which remain the only unpacked things, but nothing else is really necessary, is it?

Wednesday, September 7, 2016

A Random Assortment

~ I need to return to frugality.

~ This seems like an excellent approach to homelessness.

~ I made this roasted sweet corn salsa and it was so good. Can't recommend it enough, and may stick to this method of making corn on the cob...

~ Auden's The Unknown Citizen.

~ On motherhood and disability: "Passing on Disability to my Children." Really great.

Thursday, August 25, 2016

Parenthood.22

20.5 months

Little Leopard crosses himself when we pray before meals--a primitive crossing from shoulder to shoulder. Also, he can identify crosses on churches and crosses himself then, too. (Pretty hard to explain death to him, though.)

21 months

A plastic coat hanger is a shape shifter--it goes from vacuum cleaner to umbrella to shovel to street cleaning machine. (The street cleaning machine means it takes a very long time to walk to daycare.) 

Chester (his established nickname--only I call him that--so I might as well use it on the blog) also performs an elaborate mime of covering himself with sunscreen (something we do together every morning now that it's summer). In the middle, he sometimes throws in a quick imitation of a statue of a policeman in our neighborhood

Tonight, out of nowhere, he counted to ten!

21.5 months

When I run after him it's like he gets turbo charged and runs faster than ever and I can barely catch him. 
He loves playing at the pool. 

22 months

His communication skills are skyrocketing. We can have conversations now. His memory is also incredible--he can fill in the end of lots of Mother Goose nursery rhymes. 

He must have learned, "No Way!" said with great emphasis from daycare. 

22.5 months

He is obsessed with "baskeball" (which he ​sometimes ​abbreviates as "baske") and "tendis." He has slept with a badmin​t​o​n ​racket (which he calls a tennis racket) at least once. 

He loves our extended visit at my parents--he thinks he's a big boy helping out in the garden (eating Papa's green beans and cucumbers as if they're corn on the cob, which is his favorite). And at my parents he plays outside all the time, which is the ideal for my little boy. 

He can jump now and is just starting to be able to categorize according to color. He also sometimes now says "thank you" of his own accord. 

​His favorite songs for lullabies are 1) "I've Been Working on the Railroad" and 2) "Swing Low."​

​23 months

He started doing some things on his own without needing me to prompt him! After going to the park for instance, he came in and took off his shoes and drank some water. Insane!​

​He has enjoyed watching some horsies jumping and shot put on the Olympics. 

​After a week at his new daycare, he seems to finally be settling in, which is a relief. Although a new curiosity is that he seems to wear his fisherman hat 24/7 at school--inside and outside and even during naptime. I guess it's his comfort item. Also, they told me that he adopted the yellow chair in the classroom as his and always insists on sitting on it. 

He is very good at interacting with people--he says, "How do you do?" and shakes people's hand when he meets them. He's also super chatty--he wants to tell everyone how someone hit our car and then illustrates by hitting whatever is near him with his hand. He thinks someone literally got out of their car and walked up to our car and hit it with their hand, which is why the car is now at the car doctor, the mechanic. 

Nana made some great toys out of cardboard boxes, which he loves--one box is a stove, another piece of cardboard is a monitor attached to his keyboard, another is a car. 

He transitioned to a big boy bed now that we're at our new place. More waking up at night for a week and then all was well. 

23.5 months

He's now starting to sing songs and pick out letters--especially the first letter of his name, which he thinks belongs to him and which he finds everywhere (he even thought he saw it in a step-ladder stored on a wall). 

We feel really bad making him move, although he's been really resilient. But every once and a while when we were walking to our new apartment, he would say, "I want to go home." Meaning our old home. 

We are fast approaching his two year birthday and the only things I've bought him are three books (and they're my favorite books, too, not even his!). Poor kid. On the other hand, a Dutch friend of mine told me that his parents got him two books every year for his birthday, so maybe it's a good tradition? 

Thursday, August 18, 2016

A Good Car is Hard to Find

In the new genre of pieces lamenting lost Sentras, established recently (as far as I know) by Julia, to whom I also owe this title, I offer my own grief.

At least Seb, who was fittingly named by Ilana, is going to a good new home with Ilana (I never called or thought of my car by its name until right now.), but transferring the title was more emotional than I anticipated. I've had that car for just under 8 years and just under 100,000 miles. It took me to St. Louis and back, to Maine, to North Carolina and Tennessee.

It was a model car with very few problems, despite it's age--a radiator something at some point, occasionally the battery would die and I never found out why (about three times in as many years, nothing very recently), a belt broke (and my dad and I--mostly my dad--fixed it in 32 degree weather--that is one tough engine to figure out), the heat shield came lose, which made a racket, but caused no problems (so we lived with the racket rather than paying to have it removed). Really it was the best car ever; our new (two-year old) car, for contrast, has already had to go to the shop twice and now someone hit it, so it will have to go back again. And because I bought the Sentra with a couple of scrapes, I never minded when I or anyone else (Francisco) added to the collection.

I didn't bump it too often--once I (gently) hit the metal that protects the gas tanks from cars at a gas station. I must have hit something else once or twice, but I don't really remember. Frankly, it's incredible that I didn't hit more things given the craziness of drivers on Lancaster Avenue. I routinely barely escaped with my life.

The car was small and comfortable and could take me really fast, like when I got a ticket for going 86, which thankfully I got waved since it carried the legal stigma equal to prostitution (some sort of misdemeanor). The car came without cruise control, which is why I got that ticket, driving alone at night on an empty road, listening to a basketball game.

And I loved the color. Neither Hopkins, from whom I bought it (for way too little money, if memory serves), nor Ilana, who gets it after me, like the color very much, but I think it's fantastic--one of my favorites. I wish I could take a swatch of paint with me.

If we didn't have a kid, I think I'd advocate just buying another Sentra. An experience like that one makes me wish to only ever drive Sentras again. But its small size, so comfortable, and yet Francisco and I would always bump elbows, has become a liability. Francisco also claims it's not cross-country-drive worthy anymore, although I'd beg to differ. 

Wednesday, August 17, 2016

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From The Cloisters. Not taken by me. A friend shared this on facebook with the excellent title, "Immaculate Cosleeping."

Tuesday, August 16, 2016

True Grit

Francisco was delighted to discover that an old newspaper from my hometown (which also had, it appears, state-wide and nation-wide editions back in its prime) was called The Grit. He claims that grit is an identifying feature of my state, my family, and myself (not to mention his grandmother, who is quite a lady, and lives alone in her home at 97, with declining eyesight and hearing). It's not something I thought much about till he pointed it out: I have always paid attention to (one of) the meanings of my name, which is courage, and tried to embody that. (Although I suspect it's not any traditional name meaning, but something made up to be inspirational.)

But now that he's pointed it out, grit is something I'm quite proud of. It includes, I think, the ability to endure uncomfortable situations (in my case, to save money)--as is evidenced by my choice of the $11 6:45 a.m. megabus ticket I purchased the other month, which entailed getting up before 5, over the much later and more comfortable $70 amtrak ticket, which I still ended up needing to buy in addition to the bus ticket, since my bus was two hours late. It is evidenced by the ability to persist in applications through frequent rejection, something I think I've shown to the point of embarrassment.

However, I would say that courage seems to be more noble and honorable and a bigger deal than a little bit of grit. Let's hope they're not mutually exclusive.

Sunday, August 14, 2016

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Who thought the story of Jonah was a good idea for a children's book? I get that kids like big fish, but that is one confusing story to interpret. (Jonah's prophecy is not really fulfilled; God gives him shade and then cruelly takes it away, etc.)

Tuesday, August 9, 2016

Quote

In honor of the feast of Edith Stein: 

Are you the master who builds the eternal cathedral,Which towers from the earth through the heavens?Animated by you, the columns are raised highAnd stand immovably firm.Marked with the eternal name of God,They stretch up to the light,Bearing the dome,Which crowns the holy cathedral,Your work that encircles the world:Holy Spirit God's molding hand! 
                       --from her novena of the Holy Spirit

And from a poem she wrote on Good Friday, according to the internet:

Today I stood with you beneath the cross 
And felt more clearly than I ever did 
That you became our Mother only there. 
But those whom you have chosen for companions 
To stand with you around the eternal throne, 
They must stand with you beneath the Cross, 
And with the lifeblood of their bitter pains, 
Must purchase heavenly glory for those souls 
Whom God's own Son entrusted to their care.

Sunday, August 7, 2016

A Random Assortment

~ "The Stranger Guest: The Literature of Pregnancy and New Motherhood"--wonderful! Via MSI

~ On working with TSE.

~ Podcast (in part) about Geel.

~ Really excellent piece about approaching disability through acceptance, rather than by attempting to "fix" the person. (This builds on the Geel podcast.)

~ The homily from the funeral mass of the murdered priest:

Evil is a mystery. It culminates in horrific moments that takes us beyond what is human. Is not that what you meant, Jacques, with your last words? You fell to the ground after the first stab; you tried to push your attacker with your feet, and you said, “Go away, Satan.” Again you said, “Begone, Satan.” In this you expressed your faith in humanity, created good, but gripped by the devil. 
“Jesus healed all who were oppressed by the devil,” says the Gospel. 
This is not to excuse the murderers — those who make a pact with the devil! But we must uphold with Jesus that every man, every woman, every human person can change his heart with His grace. This is how we make ours the worlds of Jesus even as they may seem beyond our strength today, “Well! I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.”

Sunday, July 31, 2016

County Fair

We visited the county fair somehow accidentally on the day it was free, even the rides! (We did have to pay for parking--$3 dollars in someone's yard.) Although we only made it on the carousel before a thunderstorm, plus Chester only rides rides with me beside him, which rules out almost everything. We had to miss the ferris wheel because the storm was rapidly approaching and the man who managed it was on a power trip, wanting everyone to remain in the line although it was clear that the storm would close it.

The first building at the fair housed award-winning food: Layer cakes slouching on paper plates, cut in half to show off the layers, with a piece on a server. Sometimes there was plastic draped over the top. How are those cakes going to look after a week of heat? The cakes were interspersed with those cookies with hershey kisses in the middle and other randomness.

There were also prize-winning jams, vegetables, and wildflowers in little vases. Why is there a prize for that?

There were lots of different kinds of animals and exceptional cowboy-hat clad young children who manage the animals, expertly hopping over fences and pulling sheep and goats around by their mouths as the animals bleated mournfully. Chester clung to me in fear of the animals. It seems he might not be well-suited to grow up into one of those exceptional 4-H children.

There were cows and pigs and rabbits. The poultry building was transformed into a garage displaying old tractors. There were horses and miniature horses and cows. And there were more exotic animals like llamas and camels and a reindeer, baby zebra, and porcupine. And there was a small petting zoo where you could feed the animals carrots if you wanted, which Chester did not want. Plus, you had to pay $1 for the carrots. Chester is a child who saves us money.

There were rows of stands of fried food. It was deeply unfortunate that the stand that was smoking various meats was not yet open. We settled on a fried fish sandwich and french fries and a sweet waffle.

Oh, and I nearly forgot: There was some big construction and farm equipment on display that I never would have noticed, had it been for Chester's enthusiastic pointing; it pleased him probably most of all.